http://voyagecontrol.com/index.php/2016/02/23/the-magic-of-communication/
Communication is not easy. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses in it. Personally, my strength lies with breaking the ice easily. I usually initiate the conversation because firstly, I dislike the feeling of awkwardness and secondly, I do not want the other person to think that I am a boring person.
Usually when I meet someone new, I will start off by getting to know the other
person. After finding a mutual interest between us, it is usually easy for me
to bring out more topics to talk about. Throughout the years, I have also
learned to be more observant towards the other person body language. I have
developed a skill to read subtle gestures and how it reflects about the person behavior.
For example, when interacting with a person of the opposite sex and she starts
to play with her hair, I knew that there is a chance that she had developed
some interest in me. This however is not always true, as sometimes, it could
just be a habit of hers. Therefore, I must be careful and not rush to conclude
that she absolutely like me.
Even
though I have certain skills that helped me through breaking the ice and continuing
the conversation, I do however face certain challenges.
For example, after finding mutual interest, I tend to talk and not leave any
gaps for the other person to reply or allowing them to start a new topic.
Basically, I am lost in my own world where I require the other person to just
listen.
By
attending a course in interpersonal and work communication, I would like to
achieve two things at the end. Firstly, I would like to be a better
communicator by learning to know when the other person requires me to stop and
have me listen instead. Secondly, I would like to learn how to use the skills
that I currently have effectively at a work place such as in a project group
where communicating is key.
Hi Hanzalah! You post really explains a lot about your personality, and it's actually quite a good thing that you are like that since it can help to make people more comfortable. But this might not work in all cases though. There are some people who actually prefer to be more quiet and be left alone at times and might actually make them more awkward if you were to continuously approach them. Perhaps you sometimes might want to make sure that they're comfortable with the way you approach first so you will not make it worse. That way you are both satisfied about the conversation.
ReplyDelete-Ernest
Nice blog, though I feel that the interaction with the opposite gender part is too personal. And though you say you tend to enter your own world during conversation, I personally have yet to see that happening during our conversation. Maybe it just me who has this view of you but when it comes to communicating, you really good.
ReplyDelete-Khairil
Dear Hanzalah,
ReplyDeleteI do agree fully that your character and personality does infer that you are a very open person to building relationships. As our teacher said, we should not jump into conclusions without proper evaluation and understanding. Likewise, I love to play with my hair when i am around you, so perhaps you would need to be more observant of my actions. I also would like to hear about which and what skills you would like to improve in the future. I hope you expand further on that point in the future as I believe that point is fairly vague.
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DeleteBenjamin Lu